What is a deadline anyway?

“Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”

Sometimes we get messages from people that say something like this: ‘Life is short, your gonna die one day, follow your dreams now.’ They may have have known someone who died recently that inspired them. And that’s cool – I totally get it. I might even for a day or two think “they are right, I really got to listen to that and get up off my ass”. But there is an important aspect of this message that I believe often gets overlooked.

There are things in life that require more time, consistency and cultivation than what a rushed timeline can offer.

For 6 months I had the true blessing of living in one of the most beautiful places I’d ever seen, Sagres, Portugal. As my artist visa ran out that time had to come to an end. During my last month I began appreciating every moment there like it was my last. I heard myself being constantly thankful for the experience and what is has taught me.

Did I accomplish all that I wanted to while there?….my overly ambitious self would say No, but of course that part forgets I am not Superman. The more subtle part of my being would say Yes and then some. The quantifiable results, which we focus on so much, are definitely enough to be proud of. But the opportunity to lay out a new framework for the next part my life is priceless. It is not quite something I can show you, but it may mean more than anything that can be drawn on a graph or mentioned in small talk.

So what is a deadline exactly?

The line where you are dead, literally or metaphorically. I also lost a family friend that year and often thought of her while in Sagres. Every time I find myself complaining about some BS I remember I still have the luxury to do so. When she died her father sent out an email sharing the message she wrote for her family and friends as her time came to a close. I asked him if I could share her words and he responded – “Of course, share these thoughts.  They become an extension of her life.”

Before I do so I want to point out one thing that is often overlooked in these types of emails, and that is the subtle. Yea you could go skydiving tomorrow and that would be great….but what about that dream you have? To make a film, write a book, learn piano or do that vacation with someone you love that you always wanted to do? There are things to honor that take more time to cultivate. Laura lost a year long battle to Leukemia leaving behind 3 children and a family that loved her. In the years before her death she became a Yoga Master and that didn’t happen overnight. Her body transformed, her spirit transformed and her inner fire came out especially at the end of her life….Not a bad note to end on.

So as you enjoy your day I’d like to share her words with you to help inspire you to laugh at adversity and appreciate where you are right now…
And Have Fun!
-John Zay

Here is what she had to say:

“Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that fear shrinks and vanishes, you are free.”

“Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”

“Never chase love, affection or attention. If it isn’t given freely by another person, it isn’t worth having.”

“Tomorrow is never promised so today I want all my family and friends to know how thankful I am for each and every one of you and how lucky I am that you are a part of my life.”

“One day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to do the things you’ve always wanted. Do it now.”

“In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take, relationships we are afraid to have, and the decisions we waited too long to make.”

“The tragedy of life is not death, but what we let die inside of us while we live.”

“Most people would learn from their mistakes if they weren’t so busy denying them.”

“Your journey has molded you for the greater good. It was exactly what needed to be. Don’t think that you’ve lost time. It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the now. And now is right on time.”

“At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each one of us has cause to feel deep gratitude for those who have lighted the flame within us.”

“Do you believe that there are no accidents in life? Everything happens for a reason. Every person we meet will have a role in our lives, be it big or small. Some will hurt, betray, and make us cry, to become stronger. Some will teach us lessons, not to change us, but for us to realize our mistakes and to help us grow, and make us a better person.  And some will simply inspire and love us to make us happy.”

“I want to be remembered as the girl who always smiles, even when her heart is broken, and the one that could brighten up your day even if she couldn’t brighten up her own.”

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